feeling left out?



Hey Reader,

You didn't get invited to something.

Maybe your friends went out without you, or your coworkers had lunch and didn't ask you to join.

You feel hurt and left out.

And your mind starts spinning.

Why didn’t they ask me?

Why didn’t they want me there?

Here’s how to handle that moment without losing your peace (or your relationships):

#1. Remind yourself: I wasn’t meant to be there.

Seriously. Say it out loud.

There’s a blessing in a door closed.

#2. If you bring it up, don’t start with “you.”

Not “You didn’t invite me.”

Not “You never call me anymore.”

Because that makes them feel defensive.

Instead, start with “I.”

“I was bummed I didn’t get an invitation.”

“I’ve been feeling a little distant lately.”

That keeps the conversation open instead of combative.

#3. Make it about them.

Ask how it went.

Ask what they loved.

If you couldn’t share in the past moment, share in their present joy.

That’s what real friendship looks like.

And that's what to say when you're feeling a little left out.

Handle it this way, and you'll keep your peace while maintaining your relationships.

J

P.S. Sometimes not being invited is life protecting you from something you don't even know about yet.


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