Hey Reader, You’re in the middle of a heated argument that’s spiraling out of control. Emotions are high. Voices are raised. And neither side is willing to back down. Here are 3 simple strategies to stop a heated argument: #1. Ask, “Is this something we have to agree on?” The answer is probably “no.” Just recognizing that agreement isn’t necessary can immediately reduce the tension. It shifts the focus from trying to convince the other person to simply understanding them. #2. Use the...
14 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, This week's podcast is something special. I'm answering your questions straight from my inbox, and these 3 topics keep popping up because they hit communication roadblocks we all face sooner or later. Can't wait for you to hear it. In this week's episode, I'm teaching you: How to reopen a door that feels permanently closed What to do when you feel like you don't belong The one habit that will improve your communication more than any “perfect phrase” ever will Listen to the episode...
16 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Thank you for being with me this year and for trusting me in moments that mattered. This year my book went places I never imagined and into conversations I'll never get to see. You grew with me as I had my first book launch, visited morning shows, met so many wonderful faces at tour signings and speaking and podcasts, and heard stories of hope I'll never forget. And through my highs and lows, you're still here. I believe a better world begins with a better conversation. Thank you...
21 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Ever had someone blame you for their bad behavior? “I wouldn’t have yelled if you hadn’t upset me.”“You triggered me. What did you expect?” That’s not accountability. It’s bait. And if you’re not ready, it’s easy to take it. Here are 3 phrases to shut it down without losing your cool: #1. Respond with, “I didn’t yell at myself.” Or, “I didn’t insult myself.” “I didn’t gaslight myself.” This mirrors the moment back to them and makes it crystal clear: You are not the one who crossed...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Someone makes a comment in front of other people to put you down. Maybe it’s subtle…or not. Either way, it lands. Most people jump to defend themselves. But that only gives the comment more power. You don’t have to take the bait. Here’s a better way to handle it—calm and confident. #1. Give it five seconds of silence. Do absolutely nothing. No comeback. No explaining. Let their comment fall all the way to the ground. That silence shows you’re not playing their game. #2. Turn to...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Thanks to Momentous for bringing this to your inbox. Hey Reader, When you hear the word “power”, what’s the first thing you think? Most people don’t think about personal growth. They think manipulation, ego, or someone pulling strings behind the scenes. But what if power isn’t good or bad? In this week’s episode, I sat down with Robert Greene, author of The 48 Laws of Power, to talk about power as something very different: a neutral tool that starts with self-control, not domination. Most...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, You apologized... But they're still mad. So what went wrong? Most apologies don't land because they're secretly disguised as defenses. You think you're being humble, but you're actually protecting yourself. Here's how to apologize in a way that actually works: #1. Begin with “I’m sorry that I ___.” Be specific with your actions, like “I’m sorry I said I didn’t care.” This tells the person you’re genuinely acknowledging your misstep. #2. Follow it up with “Next time, I will ___”...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
This newsletter is sponsored by Our Place. Hey Reader, You know that feeling when someone's negativity just... zaps the life out of you? It ruins your day. Keeps you up at night. Makes you lose your appetite. And you're thinking...How do I make this stop? Here's the rule I live by, and I want you to try it too: Don't absorb negative energy. Interrupt it. Because negativity spreads fast. And before you know it, you're carrying something that isn't even yours. In this week's episode, I'm...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, Every Thanksgiving, my family makes my MiMi's dressing. Her handwritten recipe is worn from years of love. But what I treasure most are the conversations we have while enjoying it. Good food has a way of doing that, doesn't it? This year, I typed up MiMi's recipe for the first time ever, and I'm sharing it with you below. But here's where I need your help: I'm putting together a free Good Conversation Community Cookbook, and I want your family's recipe in it. This cookbook will be...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read