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are you being manipulated?

Published 10 days ago • 1 min read
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Hey Reader,

Manipulation often shows up quietly.

You start second-guessing yourself.

You apologize all the time, even when you didn’t do anything wrong.

You feel yourself pulling back, but you can’t quite explain why.

That’s not you being too sensitive. That’s a signal.

Here are 3 signs someone is trying to manipulate you:​
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​#1. There’s a power dynamic.

There’s something about you they want—your intelligence, your looks, your job, your reputation.

They’re drawn to your strength. And they want to control it.

While it may seem like they admire you, they’re slowly breaking down that very quality behind the scenes.

#2. They’re highly possessive of you.

They don't want you to have other people in your world.

They put up fences. Keep you close.

And make you rely on them instead of being your own person.​
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#3. You recognize patterns of doubt.

They’re making you doubt yourself, second-guess yourself, or apologize for every little thing. You feel yourself starting to withdraw.​
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​If you recognize these patterns, they are red flags.

Trust your instincts. If something feels off, it probably is.​
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