what to do when they yell at you



Hey Reader,

You didn’t start the fight—but now they’re yelling.

Their voice is rising.

And your nervous system is screaming: Yell back. Defend yourself. Get loud.

But that’s not the way to win this moment.

In this week’s podcast episode, I’m teaching you exactly what to do when someone is shouting at you—so you don’t spiral, shut down, or shout back.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

  • How to get them to lower their volume (without asking)
  • A simple strategy to add space and stay calm—even when they’re not
  • Exact phrases to say that help you take back control of the conversation

Because staying calm isn’t weakness.

It’s wisdom.

And you can absolutely learn how to do it—every single time.

Listen now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or your favorite podcast platform.

You’ve got this.

J


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Jefferson Fisher

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