how to master small talk



Hey Reader,

Most people freeze up when it’s time for small talk.

They either say nothing…

Or blurt out something awkward and wish they hadn’t.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Here’s a quick 3-step formula you can use anywhere. It works every time:

#1. Say something casual.

It can be about anything—weather, clothes, coffee.

Ideally, it’s interesting. But honestly? It doesn’t have to be.

#2. Ask a question of preference.

If you say, “Beautiful weather we’re having,” and they agree, follow it with:

“So are you a summer person or a fall person?”

#3. Share something back.

Whatever they say, connect.

If they say they love fall, respond with:

“I’m with you. Fall all the way. Makes me think of family and football. What about you?”

And just like that, you’ve gone from small talk to real connection.

You didn’t overthink it.

You didn’t overexplain.

You just showed up with intention.

And that’s how to master small talk every time.

J

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Jefferson Fisher

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