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what it means to assert a boundary

Published 4 days ago • 1 min read
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Hey Reader,

We often hear that asserting a boundary means drawing a line.

But it’s not a line.

A boundary is a border.

Think of a map—or just driving around your neighborhood.

When you see somebody’s fence, it tells you what they own.

What they claim to be theirs.

Boundaries work the same way.

They inform the outside world about where your values are.

Let’s say your family is your top priority. That’s a value.

We know your values because of the boundaries you set.

You say no to the networking event so you can tell your kids goodnight.
You pass on the job offer because it would’ve meant less time with your spouse.
You skip the weekend trip because you promised your kids a movie night.

Your boundaries protect your values.

So when someone says to assert a boundary, it simply means confidently making choices that show others what matters most to you.

That’s it. That’s the whole thing.

You've got this,

J

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