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Jefferson Fisher

how to be more assertive

Published almost 2 years ago • 1 min read

Hey Reader,

Want to get better at standing up for yourself?

Here are 3 simple changes you can make right now to become more assertive:

1: Stop over-apologizing.

That’s where you say “I’m sorry” in every other sentence. It’s time to drop that habit.

Instead of saying, “I’m sorry I’m late,” try “Thank you for waiting for me.” Replace “I’m sorry to bother you,” with “I appreciate your time.”

If it is not an apology, do not apologize for it. It’s a submissive position.

2: Stop undervaluing what you have to say.

Your thoughts are important. Never put yourself down before you get out your sentence.

Don’t start with, “This might be a dumb question but…”

Instead, use phrases like, “Can I build upon that?” or “Can I take that further?” This shows you’re engaging confidently with the conversation.

3: “No” is a complete sentence.

If you have a boundary, stick to it.

People might not always like it, but they will respect you for being clear about your limits.

- J.

P.S. Assertiveness is about clear, respectful communication. Use these 3 tips and you'll find your voice growing stronger each day.

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Jefferson Fisher

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