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how to stop oversharing

Published 4 days ago • 1 min read
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Hey Reader,

Do you ever leave a conversation and think, “Did I talk too much?”

That's what oversharing feels like.

Here’s a rule I live by—and want you to think about too:

If you wouldn’t share your personal closet with them, don’t share your personal thoughts with them.

Oversharing is like loaning someone your favorite sweatshirt.

They won’t love it like you do.

They won’t guard it like you would.

So how do we protect what matters, while still being real?

Try these tips to check yourself:

#1. Use the “now” filter.

Ask yourself: “Do they need to know this right now?”

Usually, the answer is no.

So hold on to it for the right moment.

#2. Don’t undervalue your words.

When you overshare, you lower the price of your words.

Remind yourself:

Saying less means more.

#3. Aim for true connection:

Connection rarely comes from talking about yourself.

Real connection comes from listening, not oversharing.

So if you ever think, “Am I talking too much?” — The answer is probably, yes.

Remember, you don’t owe everyone full access to your inner world.

Guard your peace, guard your words—and keep your favorite sweatshirt for the people who’ve earned it. :)

J

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