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when they try to make you look bad

Published about 13 hours ago • 1 min read
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Hey Reader,

Someone makes a comment in front of other people to put you down.

Maybe it’s subtle…or not.

Either way, it lands.

Most people jump to defend themselves.

But that only gives the comment more power.

You don’t have to take the bait.

Here’s a better way to handle it—calm and confident.

#1. Give it five seconds of silence.

Do absolutely nothing.

No comeback. No explaining.

Let their comment fall all the way to the ground.

That silence shows you’re not playing their game.

#2. Turn to someone else and ask, “Did you hear the same thing I heard?”

When someone makes a rude comment, all eyes turn to you—waiting for your reaction.

But the moment you ask this question, the spotlight shifts back onto the person who said it.

It holds up a mirror to what they just did without you going on the attack.

#3. Choose your next move.

You have two options...

Let the silence continue. Give them a chance to backtrack or clarify what they said.

Or, follow up with, "Did you mean to say that out loud?"

Either way, you're keeping the focus on their words—not your reaction.

That's how you hold them accountable without being confrontational.

Remember: you don’t have to match someone’s disrespect to maintain your self-respect.

- J

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Jefferson Fisher

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