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3 things: a quick tip, heavy conversations, and feel-good music

Published about 19 hours ago • 2 min read
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Hey Reader,

Spring is here and I’ve been enjoying time outside with my kids. This week my son and I dug a hole in the yard. I was surprised how much good conversation can happen when an 8-year-old boy has a shovel and some dirt! This week, I hope you can make some time to get outside and dig into a good conversation too.

Here are this week’s 3 things: an inbox question, a communication tip, and something I’m currently loving.

#1. From My Inbox: "I love your tips. But, how do I remember what to say and overcome my brain going blank in the moment?"

When your mind goes blank, that’s your nervous system catching up to what's in front of you. Start with one slow breath. Keep your voice low and say, "Give me a moment." That pause clears the fog so you can grab the right line. Then, you need a few go-to anchor lines to cue your brain to your next thought. Try memorizing one of these now so you're ready when the moment comes:

I hear you. I’ve been thinking about X.
It sounds like you’re frustrated.
It seems we’re missing a piece.
Here’s what I’m trying to solve.
From my seat, I’m concerned about X.
Let’s stick to A and B today.
Here’s what I’ll do next.

#2. What To Say When Someone's Going Through a Hard Time

Take the decision off their plate. Don't say "Let me know if you need anything." Most people genuinely want to help, but this line puts the work back on the person who's already overwhelmed. Now they have to figure out what they need, ask for it, and coordinate with you. That's too much.

Instead, be specific about what you'll do: "I'm dropping dinner on your porch at 6. No need to reply." Name the action. Then do it. That's what lands when someone is going through a hard time.

#3. Something I'm Currently Loving — New Music

Been listening to an indie band called Penelope Road lately. Real instruments and great voices are getting harder to find. Penelope Road has both. Start with "What Can I Do.” It will put you in a good mood. "Tired of Love" is worth your time, too. Take a listen and let me know what you think.

J

P.S. What's 1 thing you're struggling with lately? Hit reply and let me know. It might show up in next week's email. :)

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Jefferson Fisher

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