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Hey Reader,

Thank you for the positive feedback on the new format last week. I’m glad you liked it.

Quick recap, in case you missed it. My weekly newsletter will now have three sections:

#1. An answer to a question from my inbox.

#2. A communication tip you can try this week.

#3. Something I’m currently loving.

Let’s get into this week’s 3 things:

#1. How do you handle a promise when the other person is not holding up their end?

When a promise has conditions and the other person is not meeting theirs, stop arguing about how you feel and go back to what was agreed. State the promise clearly. Name what has not happened. Then explain what happens next.

Say, “We agreed that I would do ___ as long as you did ___. If your part is not done by Friday, I’m ending my part of the agreement.”

Then, if Friday comes and nothing has changed, follow through. Say, “Your part was not done, so I’m ending my part of the agreement.”

That is the key. No extra debate. No long explanation. No second speech to soften it. Your credibility comes from this: say what you will do, and then do it.

#2. Choose your circle wisely.

Who you’re around is how you’ll sound. If you’re around people who interrupt, you’ll find yourself raising your voice to be heard. If you’re around sarcasm, sincerity will begin to feel risky. If you’re around people who always think negatively or gossip or cuss - you’re going to do the same thing. So this week, try to surround yourself with people who raise your thinking, not your defense.

#3. Something I'm currently loving - Fellow Coffee products

My Fellow Coffee Grinder and Aiden Coffee Maker are my new favorite coffee tools. I look for any reason to make coffee now because they make it fun. Yes, I've reached the stage of adulthood where I'm raving about coffee "tools"! If you’re looking to update your coffee routine, I recommend checking out Fellow Products. (Not sponsored, I'm just a fan.)

Here’s to a good cup of coffee,

J

P.S. The Next Conversation Workbook is now available! If you haven’t ordered your copy, get your copy here.