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Hey Reader,

As we step into March, I’m making a small change to this newsletter.

I’m still keeping three things — you know I’m partial to three.

But here’s what you’ll see each week going forward:

#1. An answer to a question from my inbox.

#2. A communication tip you can try this week.

#3. Something I’m currently loving.

Simple. Practical. Helpful.

Let's jump in.

#1. How do I deal with people who repeatedly twist what I say?

People who twist your words feed on extra words. So you give them fewer.

Start with a calm anchor like, “That’s not what I said.” Then stop. Don’t explain. Don’t fill the silence. The more you explain, the more they bend.

If they keep at it, use the loop-and-clarify move: “What did you hear?” Let them say it out loud. Then you clean it up in one line: “What I meant was _____.” Keep it short. Downward tone. No frosting.

Remember: one sentence to correct, one to clarify, one to close.

#2. Create more peace in your day with one word: “Maybe.”

The next time someone does something that frustrates you, instead of getting annoyed or angry, choose to ask yourself - “maybe”.

“Maybe they are going through a hard time?”
“Maybe they are overwhelmed?”
“Maybe there’s a reason they are rushing?”
“Maybe I’m not supposed to be there?”

It’s not about letting somebody else off the hook, it’s letting yourself off the hook. You see the bad, and you're choosing to not let it rob you of the good. So, this week - try that!

#3. Something I’m currently loving - the Strava Running app.

Speaking of new things, I took up running about a month ago. I’m enjoying my new running shoes and using the Strava app to track my progress. It’s made running fun. If you’re looking to move more this spring, Strava is worth a look!

Thanks for being here,

J

P.S. I'd love to know something you're loving these days too.