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Jefferson Fisher

3 ways to be emotionally stronger

Published over 2 years ago • 1 min read

Hey Reader,

Want to be the master of your emotions?

It’s all about setting the rules of engagement.

1: Stop giving out remote controls and start giving out manuals.

The only person who has control to make you feel a certain way is you.

When someone makes you feel less, we’re going to take back the remote control that you gave them. Instead, hand them a manual—a guide on how you operate and what you stand for.

2: Tell them your system requirements.

Be clear about what doesn’t sit right with you. It’s as easy as saying, “That’s not going to work for me,” or “That doesn’t work for me.”

These phrases set boundaries and communicate your non-negotiables.

3: Outline what works for you.

After setting boundaries, guide them towards a positive interaction. Two phrases that have helped me are, “If there’s a chance…” and “If you’re willing to…”

For example, “That’s not going to work for me. But if there’s a chance that we can talk about this peacefully, or if you’re willing to talk about this respectfully, then I’m all here for it.”

Respond these 3 ways and you’ll find yourself standing taller and more confident.

I’m cheering you on.

- J.

P.S. Building emotional strength is about drawing lines and inviting others to meet you on your terms. Hand out manuals, not remote controls.

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