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how to respond to a liar…

Published about 1 year ago • 1 min read

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Hey Reader,

You know someone is lying to you. But you’re not sure what to do.

Here’s how to handle it like a pro:

1: Take a break.

If they’re not telling you the truth, take a pause and say, “I need to come back to this conversation.”

If they’re telling the truth, they’ll wait. But if they’re lying, they’ll get nervous.

A liar will likely pepper you with questions like, “What do you think happened?” Doing this helps them craft a story that aligns with your suspicions but redirects the guilt.

2: Use the phrase, “Something feels off.”

If they’re telling you the truth, they’ll accept it and say, “Okay, what feels off?”

A liar, on the other hand, will overreact and attempt to gaslight you. They might say something like, “You’re literally insane right now.”

That’s bait. Don’t bite it.

3: Don’t say anything.

Don’t say a single word. Just wait and watch.

Liars will start to talk to themselves. They’ll say things like, “I mean why would I do something like that?” or “That’s not even me.”

They’ll get more flustered or more upset because you’re not falling for it.

Remember, the less you say, the more control you have.

And that’s how to respond to a liar.

- J.

P.S. Handling liars is all about control—don't give them yours. Let their own words lead you to the truth.

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Jefferson Fisher

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