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how to respond to disrespect

Published 4 days ago • 1 min read
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Hey Reader,

Ever had someone cross the line with you?

It’s uncomfortable.

Your first instinct is to snap back—or walk away.

But neither puts you in control.

Here are three simple moves to handle it without losing your cool.

#1: Give them 10 seconds of nothing.

Don’t say a word. Let the silence do the work.

For 10 seconds, they’ll sit alone with their words and replay them.

And because you didn’t give the reaction they wanted....

They’ll feel exposed while you look controlled.

#2: Name your standard.

Calmly say, “That’s below my standard of respect.”

Or, “That’s below my level of response.”

In one sentence, you show them their words don’t meet your values...

And you take the power back.

#3: Stand your ground.

Once you’ve set your standard, don’t backtrack.

Hold it calmly and consistently.

That steadiness says more than any comeback ever could.

Try this and let me know how it goes.

J

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