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Jefferson Fisher

How to say what you need to say without pushing people away

Published 9 days ago • 1 min read
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Hey Reader,

In today’s episode, I answer another round of listener questions. We talk about a husband who never stops talking, choosing phone calls over texts, setting boundaries with family, political disagreements, and expectations around money.

Different people. Different relationships. But a lot of the same problem:

How do you say what you need without pushing away the people you love?

In this episode, you'll learn:

  • How to interrupt someone who talks too much without starting a fight
  • What makes a boundary a boundary, not a punishment
  • How to disagree without making the other person defensive
  • Why hoping for something from someone is different than expecting it

You’re allowed to have boundaries in your relationships and to say what you need to hold that line. The goal isn’t to get your way. It’s to communicate in a way that keeps the relationship intact.

Listen now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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Jefferson Fisher

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