how to stop oversharing
Hey Reader, When you overshare, it’s like handing out your favorite sweatshirt. The other person isn’t going to love it like you do or protect it or guard it like you do. So try this: 1: Apply the “Now” Filter: Before sharing, ask yourself, “Do they need to know this now?” It’s great to share, but timing is key. Often, you’ll find the answer is “no,” helping you avoid unnecessary sharing. 2: Value Your Words. Oversharing can diminish the impact of your words. Even in casual conversations, like discussing your weekend, remember that every detail you share shapes how others perceive you. Choose your words wisely. 3: Focus on Connection. True connection rarely comes from just talking about yourself. So if you ever think, Am I talking too much?, the answer is always yes. And that’s how to stop oversharing. - J. P.S. Next time you're about to share, pause and consider these tips. Choose your words wisely! |
Jefferson Fisher
Simple, practical communication advice for your next conversation.
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