my 3 phrases to be more assertive
Hey Reader, Want to be more assertive? Try these 3 strategies… 1: Say what you’re going to do out loud. You can use the phrase, “I’m going to…” For example, “I’m going to hang up the phone now.” “I’m going to walk away from the conversation.” “I’m going to ignore how you just spoke to me.” When you state your intentions out loud, it empowers you with a sense of control and that makes you more assertive. 2: When someone is doing something you don’t like, assert yourself with phrases of authority. For example, “I do not accept the way you’re treating me right now.” Or “I do not allow people to talk to me like that.” It’s not authority over the other person. It’s authority of yourself, showing you have control over how others interact with you. 3: Get comfortable with the phrase, “When I’m ready.” For example, “I’ll get back to you when I’m ready.” Or “I will address this subject when I’m ready.” It’s a reminder that your needs drive the schedule. Not the other way around. - J. P.S. Remember, being assertive is about respecting yourself and your boundaries. Try these 3 strategies out and let me know how it goes. |
Jefferson Fisher
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