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someone being rude? here’s how to respond…

Published about 1 year ago • 1 min read

My newest podcast episode called “How to Respond to Rude Comments” is out! Listen now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or your favorite podcast platform.

Hey Reader,

Someone just made a rude comment to you.

What should you do or say?

Here’s how to respond to rude comments without losing your cool:

1: “Did you mean?”

Start your response with, “Did you mean?”

Example: “Did you mean for that to be insulting?” Or “Did you mean to come across rude?”

This shows how you interpreted it and gives them a chance to clarify or apologize. Often this will prevent an argument altogether.

(This also works very well with email and text. Example: “Did you mean for that text to be short?”)

2: “Sounds like there’s more to that.”

Encourage them to open up to the root of the issue.

This tells them you’re perceiving something negative and lets them express what’s really bothering them.

3: “Good old fashioned silence.”

My personal favorite. Ignore it and say nothing. It’s the ultimate power move. Then move on.

Remember, how you respond to rudeness says more about you than their behavior ever could.

And that’s how to handle rude comments.

- J

P.S. Want more practical examples of how to respond to rude comments?

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