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when someone tells you to “calm down”

Published 6 months ago • 1 min read
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Hey Reader,

Has anyone ever told you to “calm down” in the middle of a heated conversation?

Did it actually help?

Of course not.

It usually makes things worse.

That's why this week on the podcast, I’m teaching you how to move past “calm” and practice something far more effective—what I call grounded connection.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

  • Why “calm” sometimes backfires in conversations
  • How to aim for grounded connection (instead of just staying calm)
  • Simple phrases to use when someone tells you to calm down

When the tension rises, your job is simple:

Stay connected and steady.

Listen now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you tune in.

J

P.S. When was the last time someone told you to “calm down”? I’d love to hear how you handled it. Hit "reply" and tell me about it.

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Jefferson Fisher

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