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when they won't stop talking

Published 7 days ago • 1 min read
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Hey Reader,

Ever been in a conversation where you can't get a word in?

You have something important to say, but the other person keeps talking over you.

It’s frustrating, right?

Most people try to fight for the floor, but that only creates tension.

Here's a better way to handle it:

#1. Use their name to transition.

When someone's on a roll, interrupting with "But..." or "Actually..." triggers defensiveness.

They double down because it sounds like opposition.

But, using their name works differently.

Because it's personal and respectful.

It signals you're engaging with them, not just waiting for your turn.

And they naturally pause long enough to listen.

#2. Compliment what they just said.

Make your interruption a compliment—even a small one.

For example: “Jefferson, you make a good point there.”

This small act makes them l feel valued.

And that makes them want to hear your side.

#3. Ask a question out of curiosity.

Use the phrase: “I’m curious to know…”

It gives you control of where the conversation goes next, and it feels natural, not forced.

So, try this approach next time a conversation starts slipping.

You’ll be surprised how much influence a few subtle shifts can give you.

J

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Jefferson Fisher

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