3 signs they’re emotionally immature



Hey Reader,

You can’t have a real conversation with someone who’s emotionally immature.

They don’t reflect.
They don’t regulate.

And they definitely don’t take accountability.

Here are 3 signs to look out for:

#1: Zero impulse control.

They’ll start an argument, make a scene, or say something outrageous—no matter who’s around or where they are.

It’s like a kid having a meltdown in the grocery store.

No awareness, no pause button. Just pure reaction.

#2: It’s all a joke—until you say it.

They take everything you say personally, while insisting you take everything they say as a joke.

You’re “too sensitive.” You “can’t take a joke.”

But when it’s reversed? Suddenly you’re the villain, and they’re the victim.

#3: They call you names or insult your intelligence.

“You’re such an idiot.”

“You’re so dumb.”

“You’re crazy.”

It’s someone who doesn’t have the emotional vocabulary to say what they actually feel—so they attack instead.

And when it comes to these kinds of people, be careful not to waste your time.

J

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