Hey Reader, One of the most common questions I get: "How do I advocate for myself without feeling selfish?" The answer is simpler (and easier) than you'd expect. Here’s how to get what you want without pressure, guilt, or a power struggle: #1. Start by making them feel heard. People resist when they feel dismissed. So before you pitch your idea, affirm them first. For example, "I can see how you came to that idea." You don't have to agree with their thoughts to acknowledge them. Making them...

Hey Reader, Last week, someone emailed me because a coworker talked down to her in front of the entire team. She didn't know what to say in the moment, so she just froze. And now she keeps replaying it, thinking of what she should've said. I told her the same thing I'm going to tell you. Here's exactly what to do when someone talks down to you: #1. Flip the dynamic When someone is talking down to you, instead of staying in this inferior position, say that whatever they just told you is...

Hey Reader, I used to catch myself doing something I didn't like: Rushing through conversations, half-listening because I was mentally three steps ahead. I'd say "I'm so busy" like it was a good reason to not be fully present with the people who mattered. I had to learn how to stop being too busy for loved ones. And now I'm going to show you. In this week's episode, I'm teaching you: Why "busy" and "hurry" aren't the same (and how that distinction changes everything) The real reason you feel...