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how to get your way (without being pushy)

Published 2 days ago • 1 min read
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Hey Reader,

One of the most common questions I get: "How do I advocate for myself without feeling selfish?" The answer is simpler (and easier) than you'd expect.

Here’s how to get what you want without pressure, guilt, or a power struggle:

#1. Start by making them feel heard.

People resist when they feel dismissed. So before you pitch your idea, affirm them first. For example, "I can see how you came to that idea." You don't have to agree with their thoughts to acknowledge them. Making them feel heard before you ever say what you want lowers defenses and builds goodwill.

#2. State your preference plainly.

Clearly say what you want. Don’t apologize, over explain, or hedge. Simply say, “I prefer it this way.” Clarity is respectful and confidence removes confusion.

#3. Offer flexibility without folding.

You can offer a concrete option, yet still keep collaboration on the table. Phrases like “I’m open to a compromise" show you’re open without abandoning your position. This makes them more willing to work toward a solution.

Persuasion done right isn't about winning. It's about creating a "yes" that feels right for everyone.

So try that!

J

P.S. Have you ever struggled to advocate for yourself? Reply back and tell me about it. I'd love to hear.

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Jefferson Fisher

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