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3 things: imposter syndrome, authority at work, and my daily ritual

Published 12 days ago • 2 min read
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Hey Reader,

My daughter taught me a secret handshake this week. It took about four tries to get it right. But somewhere in those four tries I was reminded that communication is much more than words. It's how you show up. When you show up. Whether you put down your mental to-do list and give them your full attention.

Presence is a form of communication. Sometimes it's the loudest thing you can give. Let's get into this week's 3 things.

#1. From My Inbox: "How do I manage my delivery when imposter syndrome makes me rush and get wordy?"

Two things are tangled together here: speed and spill. When part of you doesn't trust that you belong in the room, your mouth tries to prove it for you. But the more you talk, the less confident you sound.

Here's what works instead: lead with the verdict. Give your answer in one sentence before any detail. That sounds like, "The rollout is on track. We need two more days for QA." Then stop talking. If they want more, they'll ask.

#2. How To Communicate Authority At Work

Kill the open-ended ramble. "So what do you think about..." Delete it. Point to the goal instead. Use a word that pulls people forward like: closer, further, next. Sounds like:

Is this getting us closer to what we said we wanted?
Are we moving further from the goal or toward it?
Let's decide on the next step.

Authority doesn't explain. It states. If you can't say it in three sentences, rephrase or scrap it.

#3. Something I'm Currently Loving — Dose

I'm loving my daily Dose drink. I'm a firm believer that showing up well starts before the conversation. What you put in your body shapes how you think, listen, and respond. That's why, when a friend pointed me to Dose, I looked it up.

Their website has clinical studies and ingredients listed out in the open. Easy and transparent. I love that. It's a simple 2 oz drink every morning, and it really does taste good!

​Check it out here. Worth your time.

Show up well this week,

J

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Jefferson Fisher

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