3 ways to stand up for yourself
Hey Reader, You want to advocate for yourself more. But you’re not sure how to do that. Here’s 3 simple ways to stand up for yourself: 1: Pick your battles. Remember, not everyone is worth getting out of your chair for. Embrace the “know your worth” mentality. Every little thing somebody says does not require a response from you. Just because they spew out trash does not mean we’re in the business of digging through the garbage. 2: Drop the disclaimers. Eliminate apologies and conditional language before making your position. Replace “I’m sorry, but I feel…” with a confident “I feel uncomfortable.” State exactly how you feel. Do not apologize or invalidate your own boundaries. 3: Say “no” without justifying it. Practice saying “no” without over-explaining. Justifications often lead to unnecessary debates. Your “no” is complete on its own and doesn’t require a detailed explanation. - J. P.S. Remember, standing up for yourself is about asserting your worth, not getting drawn into every battle. |
Jefferson Fisher
Simple, practical communication advice for your next conversation.
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