how to bring up sensitive topics



Hey Reader,

Navigating sensitive topics can be like tiptoeing through a minefield.

It’s hard to know how the other person will react. But you can control what you say and how you say it.

Next time you need to bring up a sensitive topic, try these 3 strategies:

Strategy #1: The invitation.

Start with “When would be a good time?”

For instance, “When would be a good time to talk about my compensation?”

This works because the focus is on the time, not the topic.

Strategy #2: The hypothetical.

Start with the phrase, “I wonder.”

For example, “I wonder what you’d say if I were to ask you for X, Y, and Z.”

This works because it allows you to test the waters by focusing on what they would say if you were to actually ask.

Strategy #3: The chance.

Start your sentence with the phrase, “What’s the chance?” Or, “What are the odds?”

For example, “What’s the chance that we can talk about this?” Or, “What are the odds that you’d be willing to share this with me?”

This works because even if they disagree, they’re almost always willing to give it a chance.

Sensitive topics don’t have to be scary.

With the right approach, you can turn sensitive topics into meaningful and constructive conversations.

J

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