stop using these 3 phrases

Published 5 days ago • 1 min read

Hey Reader,

Ever find yourself saying something that feels a little…unsure?

Like you're tiptoeing around your words?

I get it. But the way you phrase things can either build your confidence—or chip away at it.

Here are 3 common phrases that might be holding you back (and what to say instead):

#1: “I hate to bother you, but—”

You’ve just labeled yourself a bother. Now, before even saying a word the other person is thinking, This is going to bother me.

Instead, try: “When you get a moment, I’d like to grab your attention.”

It’s clear, confident, and shows respect for their time.

#2: “Does that make sense?”

Don’t doubt your own ability to send a message, or doubt the other person’s ability to receive it.

Instead, say: “Do you have any questions?” or “Do you have any thoughts?”

It invites conversation without undermining your message.

#3: “I don’t want to.”

This sounds like you’re on the defensive. Shift it to a preference.

For example: “I’d prefer that you didn’t.”

It signals that you have a standard by which you hold yourself and what they’re asking you to do deviates from that.

When you cut out passive phrases, you naturally sound more assertive and confident—and people take notice.

P.S. Which phrase do you catch yourself using the most? Hit reply and let me know. I’d love to hear.

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