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[FIRST NAME GOES HERE], stop doubting yourself

Published 2 months ago • 1 min read
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Hey Reader,

This week's guest, Dr. Shadé Zahrai, is one of the loveliest humans I've ever met.

She has a PhD in why you can't get out of your own head. I've known Shadé for close to two years, and every time we sit down, she rewires the way I think.

In this episode, Shadé and I get into the science of self-doubt, including her on-air "doubt quiz" from her new book Big Trust, where she told me (in front of y'all!), where I crack.

Here's what we cover:

  • The five voices of self-doubt
  • Why self-doubt hits hardest after the conversation, not before
  • A "worry time" tool that gives you back your day

She also said something I can’t get out of my head, “When you feel like you're too much for people, it's because deep down you don't believe you're enough.”

If you've ever replayed a conversation and torn yourself apart over every word, this one is for you.

You can listen now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, or your favorite podcast platform.

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