what to say when someone talks down to you
Hey Reader, Someone talked down to you. How do you respond? Here are my 3 go-to responses: 1: Flip the script. When someone is belittling you, turn the tables. Say, “The way you’re treating me is beneath me.” It reverses the power dynamic, putting you back in control and forcing them to reconsider their approach. 2: Assert your authority. Use the words “allow” and “give” to maintain your stance. For example, “I will allow you to try that again,” or “I will give you the chance to rephrase.” It’s a clear signal that you’re in charge of how you’re treated. 3: Reset the terms. Lay down the ground rules with the phrase “I’m willing.” Like, “I’m willing to have this conversation if you speak to me respectfully.” It sets clear boundaries for how the interaction should continue. Next time someone talks down to you, remember these responses. They’re not just replies. They’re declarations of your self-respect. - J. P.S. Remember, it's not just about what they say, but how you respond. Keep these tips in your back pocket for those tricky conversations. |
Jefferson Fisher
Simple, practical communication advice for your next conversation.
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