when to walk away from an argument
Hey Reader, When should you walk away from an argument? Here’s 3 clear signs when it’s wise to step back: 1: They stop addressing the issue and start attacking your character. If the argument shifts from the issue at hand to personal character attacks, it’s a dead end. This usually means they’ve run out of logical points and are resorting to any means to “win.” 2: The argument is going in circles. Stuck in a loop, rehashing the same points without progress? It’s time to find the exit. Doesn’t mean you can’t try again, but it means that the words are not working. 3: You’re emotionally spent. When your voice rises, you interrupt, or feel overwhelmed, it’s a signal to stop. Your emotions are telling you they’re running on empty. Take a break, recharge, and approach the conversation again when you’re ready. Try that and let me know how it goes. - J. P.S. Remember, walking away isn't defeat. It's an act of maturity. |
Jefferson Fisher
Simple, practical communication advice for your next conversation.
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