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Jefferson Fisher

Simple, practical communication advice for your next conversation.

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Hey Reader, Have you ever questioned the meaning of your life? I sat down with Arthur Brooks, a behavioral scientist at Harvard, happiness researcher, and author of The Meaning of Your Life. What I thought would be a conversation about happiness turned into one of the most meaningful hours I've had in a long time. He told me some things I haven't been able to shake. We talked about marriage, faith, imposter syndrome, and the one conversation Arthur witnessed on a plane that changed the entire...

Hey Reader, This week on a run, I realized I've made a lot of progress on my goal to move more. It wasn't fast or flashy. Just a little more each time. I'm a firm believer that's how most real progress works. Not in leaps, but in small shifts that build on each other. That goes for communication too, and it's what I want you to focus on today. Let’s jump into our 3 things this week: #1. From My Inbox: "How do I respectfully express an opposing view without creating tension?" When you disagree...

Hey Reader, If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “That’s not what I meant...” It’s usually because you weren’t clear. You were trying to be understood without being direct. In this week’s podcast episode, I’m showing you how to say what you mean without overexplaining, rambling, or hoping people figure it out. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why trying to sound nice can water down what you really mean How to stop rambling and land your point the first time The 3-part...

Hey Reader, I was overwhelmed by your response to my new workbook. Thank you for all the kind words, selfies, and even the live-time notifications when your book was delivered! I worked hard to create this resource, and I've been looking forward to sharing it with you. Your excitement makes it all worth it. This week I've got another round of 3 things for you: an inbox question, a communication tip and something I’m currently loving. Let’s go. #1. From my inbox: "How do I apply your tips in a...

Hey Reader, I see this communication mistake all the time: someone finally works up the courage to set a boundary, but then they start explaining the “why”. They add reasons, context, and justifications. Suddenly, their boundary isn’t a boundary anymore - it’s a negotiation. In this week’s episode, I’m breaking down why overexplaining is the fastest way to weaken your boundaries and sharing what to say instead. This week you'll learn: Why saying “no, because…” invites people to push back What...

Hey Reader, Thank you for the positive feedback on the new format last week. I’m glad you liked it. Quick recap, in case you missed it. My weekly newsletter will now have three sections: #1. An answer to a question from my inbox. #2. A communication tip you can try this week. #3. Something I’m currently loving. Let’s get into this week’s 3 things: #1. How do you handle a promise when the other person is not holding up their end? When a promise has conditions and the other person is not...

Hey Reader, My new book, The Next Conversation Workbook, is officially out. I wrote it to help you go deeper with the skills I teach. Because knowing what to say is one thing, but practicing it until it feels natural is another. This workbook is for you if… You’ve been following my advice but want help actually putting it into practice You want these skills to feel natural in real conversations You’re ready to stop second-guessing yourself and start using the right words when they matter most...

Hey Reader, As we step into March, I’m making a small change to this newsletter. I’m still keeping three things — you know I’m partial to three. But here’s what you’ll see each week going forward: #1. An answer to a question from my inbox. #2. A communication tip you can try this week. #3. Something I’m currently loving. Simple. Practical. Helpful. Let's jump in. #1. How do I deal with people who repeatedly twist what I say? People who twist your words feed on extra words. So you give them...

Hey Reader, Let me ask you something: What does a bad conversation cost? I'm not talking about the financial cost. I'm talking about... The argument that ruins your weekend. The meeting where you stayed quiet and later kicked yourself. The relationship that's been strained for months because neither of you knows how to break the cycle. Bad conversations eat at your peace of mind, keep you up at night, and make you dread Monday mornings or family dinners. Now flip that: What's it worth to...

Hey Reader, You know I talk about communication all the time, but what do my wife and I actually do in our own home? In this episode, I lay it out for you—for parents or anyone responsible for kids. Our kids are ages 8 and 6, and if you have young kids, you know... it's a handful. :) So, today I'm pulling back the curtain on the 5 things we teach our kids to help them become strong communicators—starting right now, at home. Click here to listen. In this episode, you’ll learn these 5 tips: Why...